I received a monthly newsletter from Bombay Room Yoga today. The “new” owner (as of January) is a lovely person and I recently discovered her and her space about a month ago. Yoga is like massage, different spaces and different instructors provide different experiences and heal you in different ways. I’ve started classes at Bombay Room and classes at the BRAND new Peace Heal Grow. Both have amazing, welcoming spaces providing very different services.
In Michelle’s newsletter she wrote a lovely spot on expectations. It really hit home for me today. It’s been a theme that I need to pay more attention to. I had a conflict with someone recently and I asked my husband what he thought of it. “Expectations,” is what he said (ah, such a wise man).
Yesterday, our smoke detector battery went out. I asked loving hubby to change it. He said he would. My expectation? That he would change it NOW (ie on my timeline). When he didn’t, I got all frustrated and I changed it myself. What was my problem (besides hormones)? Expectations.
I have a lot of expectations, not only of other people, but of myself. Mostly of myself. If you were in my head you’d hear a lot of:
“You should be…”
“Why aren’t you…”
“Why don’t you…”
“Your business should be doing…”
So I’m going to focus these last three months of 2018 on expectations. I’m going to work on “expecting nothing and accepting everything.” Thank you Michelle! Have any good reading on managing expectations? Please share in the comments for me and our readers!
This year has been deemed my year of “Revolution”. “Revolution” is the word I chose as my “word of the year” (in lieu of a New Year’s Resolution). As part of my Revolution I took a course hosted by Kate Yoga in Lauderdale-By-The-Sea. The program was written by Baron Baptiste, 40 Days to Personal Revolution. Nope, I cannot make this up. My word of the year was selected before I even knew this program EXISTED. I met really lovely people and learned a lot about myself. It entails exercise (yoga), meditation, journaling (including deep excavation questions), weekly group meetings, and being acutely aware of your diet (it doesn’t prescribe a diet but requires you to pay attention to what is going in your mouth). It included an optional 3-day fruit fast (I dubbed it the Fruit FEST), which I did. I did not die, but it was a bit of torture and required a lot of creativity. I have a new love for a salad made of avocado, mango and pomegranate seeds. I grilled pineapple for dinner, roasted eggplant (yes, it’s a fruit – trust me you find ANYTHING that is classified as a fruit!) and bought a great little hand held spiralizer ($15) to make zoodles (zucchini noodles). The bigger challenge was no seasoning or butter – just fruit. But post-fast (um FEST), I have held on to some of the same recipes and I add some garlic and olive oil, a little salt and I get the healthy eating with a little pleasure.
Grilled pineapple with avocado, mango and pomegranate salad
I voluntarily gave up desserts (ALL sugar was honestly too much work because sugar is in EVERYTHING) and I’m still holding firm with that (aside from the carrot cake I ate for four days straight at my grandmother’s house because she made that cream cheese frosting from scratch and it was amazing and how can you NOT eat your grandmother’s homemade cake???). After my initial REALLY AWFUL sugar detox period (some nights I still really crave sugar), I found that I stopped craving carbs as much (AKA sugar), which also led to not craving caffeine as often (I do have a cup of coffee a few times a week, but I don’t need it every day and no more Starbucks). Giving up all of those things may sound sad, perhaps like I’m missing out on things. However, focusing on whole foods really did make a difference in how I felt physically and mentally and that makes it worth it to me. I can feel your eyes rolling… and I get it… when you’re ready, maybe you’ll try it, and you’ll know what I mean. If you’re already walking that walk, you’re nodding, mmm hmmmmm. No, I’m not prepared to be vegetarian or vegan but I’m working to focus on whole foods with an emphasis on plant based foods and I like the results.
I started to beat myself up because I didn’t do the program 100% and that’s not my way. I did not do 90 minutes of yoga EVERY DAY during my last week. My meditations did NOT get to 30 minutes twice a day. BUT I did SOMETHING every day and Kate and Rob were such inspirational facilitators, that I was able to gain a lot from the program and would be willing to do it again. There’s always something more to learn. Always a deeper level. No, you don’t have to be some kind of yogi or guru to do the program. There were people participating who had never been on a yoga mat before. They thrived and it was amazing and inspiring to share their journey with them. There were people who weren’t ready and they dropped out. That happens in any course and that’s okay too. In the beginning of the course we learn the phrase “Begin Again.” So when you get off track, in the program, in LIFE, you stop, acknowledge it, and begin again. So wherever you are on your journey, know you can always Begin Again.
Once upon a time, in a land of salty, gray ocean, two little girls scampered around in their cotton night gowns, searching for treasure.
Baskets claimed, foil wrappers surrounding them, jelly beans sorted and traded, the girls reveled in an early morning high.
The mother looked upon them and realized they didn’t understand the meaning of this day. She focused their attention and talked about the glory of Jesus and his miraculous rising!
The littlest of the girls looked up with her dark, wide eyes. With a nod of understanding she proclaimed, “Like Michael Jackson’s Thriller!”
Happy Easter to all!
Ted, innocently snuggling in my lap as I write this blog
Because I don’t have ENOUGH to do, my little darlings have been creating more work for me. Or, perhaps they are trying to inspire me to write more blogs. If that’s the case, kudos to you cats. Kudos to you.
I had a “flurry” of guests and activity at my home in November and December and then Christmas decorations which require moving furniture (guests also require furniture moving) and then the partial removal of Christmas decorations (don’t judge me – I have garage reorganizing to do to get those bins back in place – it’s gonna happen. Before Valentine’s Day. I swear.). I have no idea if this is the WHY because honestly my cats appeared relatively unaffected by the activity. Cecilia waddled from my office / guest room into the master bedroom. Duke continued his role as protector and “next to” cat. Ted was in 7th Heaven with all the extra attention. He’s SUCH an attention whore. He will be up in anyone and everyone’s business 24-7 because he LOVES it. If anyone would be stressed I think it would be Duke because there were more people to protect me from. He was tired, I could see a little shift. But he’s back to his kind-of normal self, although he’s walking around the house howling right now. I have no idea what he’s howling about. ???
Random thought: My favorite and oldest mug, the first mug I ever owned as a single girl out on my own says, “Ask me about the cute thing my cat did because I’ll tell you anyway.” I’m using that mug RIGHT NOW.
Anyway, during this time, after everyone had left, my little Trouble Bubble (Ted) decided not to use the litter box anymore. At all. Just quit. Fortunately he used the wee-wee pads I put under the boxes for protection and he wasn’t peeing all over the house (good job Ted). I deep cleaned the boxes. He didn’t care. I did extensive research. Extensive litter box monitoring at all hours. Determined it was “litter box aversion.” I’ve had the same two boxes and same litter for years. YEARS. By the way, I love the Internet because you think you’re a really bad mom and then you Google these things (I also love that “Google” is now like Vaseline or Kleenex) and see all of the people who have the same problems you do. It’s like web therapy.
Anyway, I pulled out a third box, a standard box with low sides. The two regular boxes are clear storage bins. They easily hop in, do their thing and hop out. Cecilia stands up as she pees so high sides are necessary (go ahead, I DARE you to Google this – it’s a thing). The storage boxes were a reasonable, cost effective option and they took to it right away. YEARS AGO. So anyway (I should re-name this blog “Anyway”) they ALL started using the ONE low sided box. Apparently all species will opt for convenience vs any level of effort. Because they ALL used one box, Ted didn’t like that either, and I refused to set an alarm for 3:00am to clean out the litter box for the midnight eliminators. So, to my dismay, he still didn’t use the boxes (rather it was hit and miss depending on the timing of when the other two used the ONE box).
I researched other litter boxes. Found the NVR Miss. Looked interesting. Was going to buy it. Cost like $30. No. no no no no. Not happening. Do you know how many shoes I can buy at DSW for $30? I mean with my coupons and sales, etc (at least ONE pair, ok?)? So I broke out my rotary drill and cut a hole in the side of one of the storage bins for easy (aka lazy cat) access. Success. Now there are TWO boxes they will use and I’m on DAY 2 of no accidents. I’m giving it one more day, then will cut into box #3. Oh, the drama.
In other non-cat news: Today is my grandparents’ 70th wedding anniversary. Seventy years. I can’t equate that to anything. I think it’s amazing. They have good stories – even the “bad” stories are good. So many stories. I love them dearly.
Cheers, love, and kitty cat purrs
I love Christmas cards. I actually love any kind of card. I love anything I receive in the mail that isn’t a bill. I enjoy the little spark of joy when I pull the envelope out of the mailbox. I get a kick out of breaking the seal. I enjoy the decorative front and what it says about the personality of the sender. It’s an extra bonus if there’s a little hand written note inside. Each step has its own facet of joy.
This year I especially enjoyed the cards from my husband’s friends. They had lovely notes in them, actually written by the men. One included a side note for me, “Erin – Keep Jerry working!” Hahaha. I’m working on that. 😉 My favorite card was the one with a photo of a newborn and her dog. I’ve known her daddy since he was a baby; I was his babysitter. I’m unbearably excited to meet his daughter in 2018. Another sender’s card had a jolly picture of their pup and two others had loving pictures of weddings from earlier in the year. One had an invoice in it… I had to laugh; gotta appreciate multi-tasking.
Sadly, my card sending was lacking this year (I actually enjoy card writing as much as card receiving). Life has been a blur the past few months. My family visited in November, over Thanksgiving. Then a few weeks later my bestie visited with her two kiddos. All good times, good memories (I finally saw my first Florida gator!). Then it was Christmas. My bestie dubbed this the “Year of the Pop Up Christmas,” and she wasn’t kidding. My decorations went up on December 23. Now it’s the new year. I’m very excited about 2018 – I’ve decided it’s going to be an excellent year. Plus, I like writing the number eight. When I told my hubby this he groaned. Apparently, it’s not easy for a lefty to write the number eight. When I thought about it, his 8 sometimes looks like a 9 because the bottom circle gets all smashed up. Fun Fact about Erin: I make my 8 like a “figure eight” and not two circles. I hope everyone else is as optimistic about the new year as I am. We all have the power to make it amazing.
Another realization post hurricane was that I could have been more creative with my food planning. I had apocalypse food. Like a jar of peaches. Stew-like soup that COULD be eaten cold if necessary. Pretzels. Peanut butter and bread. Instant mashed potatoes. Tuna. Pasta. We would have survived, but I didn’t really have MEALS. Since we never lost power it was a little deceptive because we felt like things should be normal.
Hubster: “So what’s for dinner?”
Me: ” A jar of peaches??”
I didn’t bother stocking up on meats because if we lost power (ie the refrigerator) I would have had a limited time to grill everything (even if it was stored in a cooler). I’m also not a camper. So that kind of eating / meal prep is no where on my radar. My husband was in the jungle in Vietnam (army, front lines, sleeping in the rain, strapping laces up his legs to keep the leaches off of him, war experience). So he thinks we need a sh*t load of dehydrated meal packs… not a bad idea but I don’t really want to live on them for weeks if I don’t have to. Once power was restored in some areas, but not others, there were two lines on the streets: 1) Gas; 2) McDonalds. I kid you not. Again, if faced with death I would eat it, but it’s not at the top of my preferred dining list (#FirstWorldProblems). So I turned to Google for future hurricane food planning. Here’s a few interesting ideas I came across:
- Hard boiled eggs. I actually did think of this, but hadn’t purchased extra eggs. Next time I will. Once boiled, with shells on, hard boiled eggs can stay at room temperature.
- Bacon. Pre-cook it and it can also stay at room temperature.
- Hard, cured meats and room temperature friendly cheeses (I found a whole blog on backpacking with cheese…).
- Container of lemon juice – for a little added flavor
- Roasted garlic – for added flavor (to rice, vinaigrette, those instant mashed potatoes!)
- Jarred chutneys and jams with crackers (I love me some chutney!)
- Jars of pickled vegetables: can be eaten on their own or added to rice or pasta.
- Instant coffee and dried creamer. Sometimes you need coffee. Even bad coffee.
- Fresh fruit. You will crave freshness, so have them on hand. Apples, oranges, banana.
- Tortillas and jarred salsa.
- Granola and granola bars.
- Cereal (ie dried bits of cardboard – I really dislike cereal but would eat it if faced with starvation).
- Beans (also blech – it’s a texture thing – but if I was staring death in the face, I’d eat beans).
- Drinks. I had plenty of water, which is the most important, but we could have used some Gatorade or other beverages with a little flavor for a treat.
What did I miss on my list? Share your hurricane meal tricks!